3 ideas and a question: Stuck stories
How we become so committed to and soothed by our conflict stories
Idea 1
Our conflict stories help us create compelling narratives that connect the dots about what happened. These narratives comfort us because we know how things fit together and won’t be blindsided next time.
Idea 2
Research has repeatedly demonstrated that, once formed, our stories are remarkably resistant to change, even when remaining committed to them is irrational. We are adept at pointing out the weaknesses in others’ stories, while quite blind to the shortcomings of our own.
— Why facts don’t change our minds
Idea 3
Our “residual memories” about a past experience can evoke an emotional response that is very real yet not grounded in the actual present experience.
— When conflict is real but not true
Question
What would it take for you to reassess your Stuck Story?