Reflection prompt #6

On shifting the narrative of the conflict stories we tell ourselves and others

When I’m preparing for a mediation, I talk privately in advance with each person involved in the conflict. In mediator-speak, it’s commonly called pre-mediation or intake. Pre-mediation has many purposes and goals. One of them is to invite reflection about what’s happened, not simply to replay it, but in order to explore the narrative they’ve formed about the conflict.

I try to hold myself to the same exploration when I’m in a conflict of my own. I use the same question on myself that I use with my mediation and coaching clients. I’ve noticed my husband is now using it, too. 🤭