Smart notes from elsewhere #2
The Vocab Lab, Ury summarizes the essence of his work, changing the way we relate to others, emotions are culturally shaped, when to disagree and commit
Hello, friends -
Northern New Hampshire was in the solar eclipse totality zone this week. We’d planned to go north along with the rest of humanity, but at the last minute decided to be content with our 95.5% totality. We enjoyed a very late lunch on the terrace of a restaurant overlooking Mount Monadnock and then relaxed in the warm sun with our eclipse glasses. It was wonderful to listen to the exclamations of those around us as the winds suddenly died down, the light dimmed, and birds grew quieter. Our decision to stay put may have lost us the experience of 100% totality, but it also saved us the 6- to 12-hour drive many experienced trying to leave northern New Hampshire en masse on roads not built to carry tens of thousands at once!
Quick announcement before we get to this month’s selection of Notes:
There’s a question I’m asked frequently when I’m speaking or teaching: What’s the best way to say [____]? I used to resist suggesting how to say something because words I use might sound contrived coming from someone else. We all have our own styles. But over the years, I’ve come to understand that part of learning to disagree better is developing the vocabulary for it.
So I’ve just opened the Vocab Lab, an exclusive benefit for my paid subscribers. I’ll share my favorite conflict resolution questions and vocabulary and invite subscribers to share theirs. It’s also a place for guidance in figuring out how to say something — raise an issue, make an apology, ask a question, offer feedback, and so on.
These selections caught my attention lately. I share them here for those of you who may not regularly visit my online Notes. What conflict resolution articles and resources have captured your attention lately? Please share in the comments.
Take care of each other,
Tammy