Such an important question--what is it that matters? As you so clearly point out, unless we understand our needs or hooks and those of others, we can get stuck in a spiraling conflict with understanding and compassion decreasing and fear and anger increasing. Thank you for this!
What a succinct, clear article, thank you! You make it sound easy, when I would think that this is the core for most everything. Very helpful. Lots to think about.
Thanks for letting me know it was useful to you, Judy. I've found that, with practice using the ideas regularly, it becomes almost second nature to begin looking at people's conflict reactions through the lens of conflict hooks. It doesn't "fix" everything, but I find the insights gained useful daily.
Such an important question--what is it that matters? As you so clearly point out, unless we understand our needs or hooks and those of others, we can get stuck in a spiraling conflict with understanding and compassion decreasing and fear and anger increasing. Thank you for this!
You're welcome! I'm so glad you found it useful.
What a succinct, clear article, thank you! You make it sound easy, when I would think that this is the core for most everything. Very helpful. Lots to think about.
Thanks for letting me know it was useful to you, Judy. I've found that, with practice using the ideas regularly, it becomes almost second nature to begin looking at people's conflict reactions through the lens of conflict hooks. It doesn't "fix" everything, but I find the insights gained useful daily.