If you’ve been with me since before Substack, thanks for being a shining light and source of inspiration. Some of you have been subscribers for well over a decade. Imagine that. And if this is your first time here, welcome! I am so grateful for your interest in what we’re doing here.
I’m actually two Tammys. Good Tammy is the Tammy who handles things with grace and wisdom when the going gets rough. I like her a lot. Bad Tammy is my shadow side, the one that opens my mouth and says sarcastic or biting things. Sometimes I stop her in time, sometimes I don’t. I don’t love her a lot, but she sure keeps me humble.
I’d love it if you’d share something below about your own versions of Good Tammy and/or Bad Tammy. Or just say hello!
Hi Tammy. Karen here from lovely New Zealand. I’ve been following you for quite some time and love your work. I so relate to your Good Tammy/Bad Tammy story. I’m an empathetic, soft hearted person who is prone to people pleasing (I’m learning to change that!) and what happens is suddenly I get resentful especially when my needs are constantly not being met or someone pushes me too far. And then I either become passive aggressive with my comments or very direct and tell ‘em exactly what I think. Then I feel bad for doing that. 🙄. I actually think the ‘direct’ Karen could come out a little more as the ‘nice’ Karen needs to set boundaries then make sure others don’t step on them.
Thanks for sharing your experience with this, Karen. I'm pretty confident we all have one (or a thousand)! Staying familiar with my Bad Tammy side gives me several gifts: When I'm seeing someone else act badly, I know that there but for grace go I. And, of course, it allows me not to get too arrogant! Any gifts for you?
Hi Tammy. Karen here from lovely New Zealand. I’ve been following you for quite some time and love your work. I so relate to your Good Tammy/Bad Tammy story. I’m an empathetic, soft hearted person who is prone to people pleasing (I’m learning to change that!) and what happens is suddenly I get resentful especially when my needs are constantly not being met or someone pushes me too far. And then I either become passive aggressive with my comments or very direct and tell ‘em exactly what I think. Then I feel bad for doing that. 🙄. I actually think the ‘direct’ Karen could come out a little more as the ‘nice’ Karen needs to set boundaries then make sure others don’t step on them.
Thanks for sharing your experience with this, Karen. I'm pretty confident we all have one (or a thousand)! Staying familiar with my Bad Tammy side gives me several gifts: When I'm seeing someone else act badly, I know that there but for grace go I. And, of course, it allows me not to get too arrogant! Any gifts for you?