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When you don't like the way someone is speaking to you
Language for saying so without escalating the situation [premium post]
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How to raise an unspoken problem
Ways to invite discussion about a problem before it festers
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Language for dealing with repetitive storytelling
How to explore and address stories about what happened so that problem-solving can move forward.
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A question for softening inflexible stances
+ A quick survey for you
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Language for stopping unwanted advice-giving
How to politely stop people from giving advice you've neither asked for nor want to hear.
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How one word helps us bypass ego and hopelessness
Adding one word to a common question helps us mentally bypass our egos in conflict situations.
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A question for disagreements on charged issues
Some disagreements — particularly those on charged issues — lure us into thinking that if the other side(s) just had more information, they’d se…
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Great question
What do we really mean when we say, "That's a great question!"?
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A better question than "what should we do?"
The trouble with “should” is that it places a mental constraint on our option-generating.
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Introducing the vocab lab
What’s the best way to say [____]? I’m asked this question a lot when I’m speaking to an audience, or teaching a class or seminar. I used to res…
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