Emotional agility

Unpacking our stuck stories

The story we tell ourselves and others about a conflict isn’t the story of the conflict. It’s our story of the conflict. What is it trying to tell us?

Apr 2 •

Keep your wits during conflict with these cognitive distancing techniques

Help yourself think clearly, make better decisions, and keep impulses in check with these 11 mental tricks.

Oct 2, 2024 •

Venting anger: Why it doesn't help and what to do instead

Venting anger doesn't help you calm down and increases aggression. So why is the venting myth still embraced? And what's better?

Jun 5, 2024 •

Discovering and managing conflict hooks, part 2

An exercise to help you identify your conflict hooks and increase emotional agility during difficult interactions.

May 1, 2024 •

Discovering and managing conflict hooks, part 1

One of the best ways to increase emotional agility in conflict is to recognize and manage your conflict hooks.

Apr 3, 2024 •

On navigating choice points

How can we increase the chance that our better angels will guide our words and actions in the heat of the moment? [Bonus article]

Mar 18, 2024 •

Unburied empathy

What we do immediately after we express empathy helps or hinders the connection and alignment we’re trying to build.

Mar 6, 2024 •

How to deal with stonewalling

Look for the underlying message in this frustrating dynamic at work or home

Jan 11, 2024 •

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