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Mental models
Mental models: The invisible maps that shape our arguments
We disagree better when we understand the ways our mental models help and hinder us during conflict.
Sep 3
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Tammy Lenski
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3 ideas and a question: On forgiveness
The impact of forgiveness on us and on them
Aug 20
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Tammy Lenski
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3 ideas and a question: Evaluating risk
Two ways we misperceive risk and how to move forward anyway
Jul 16
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Tammy Lenski
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Break free from rowboating
Stop a conflict’s past from holding you fast
May 21
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Tammy Lenski
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Discover what you're really fighting about
Our conflict hooks influence the conflicts we get into, how we react, and how stuck we get
May 7
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Tammy Lenski
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3 ideas and a question: Stuck stories
How we become so committed to and soothed by our conflict stories
Apr 16
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Tammy Lenski
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3 ideas and a question: On blame
How our minds and brains process mistakes and blame
Mar 19
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Tammy Lenski
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My favorite ways to gain insight into a conflict
How I form “provisional theories” that can influence the trajectory of a conflict.
Sep 4, 2024
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Tammy Lenski
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9 practical strategies for navigating resistance when people disagree
Conflict is a dance with resistance. To choose our best moves, we need to make sense of their resistance and figure out how to dance with it.
Aug 5, 2024
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Tammy Lenski
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Discovering and managing conflict hooks, part 1
One of the best ways to increase emotional agility in conflict is to recognize and manage your conflict hooks.
Apr 3, 2024
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Tammy Lenski
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Acknowledging the snake under the rug
We don't need to accept every invitation to an argument, but when we avoid or suppress disagreement about something important, we risk it becoming like…
Jan 19, 2024
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Tammy Lenski
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