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A question for softening inflexible stances
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Tammy Lenski
My favorite ways to gain insight into a conflict
How I form “provisional theories” that can influence the trajectory of a conflict.
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August 2024

Reflection prompt #5
I spoke recently about the quest for common ground, particularly how elusive it can seem when vital working relationships have devolved into bitterness…
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Language for stopping unwanted advice-giving
How to politely stop people from giving advice you've neither asked for nor want to hear.
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You're not listening
Do you seem like a bad listener when you disagree? Yes, you do, even when you’re an ace listener. Here's why.
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9 practical strategies for navigating resistance when people disagree
Conflict is a dance with resistance. To choose our best moves, we need to make sense of their resistance and figure out how to dance with it.
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July 2024

Reflection prompt #4
Considering the ways early lessons and experiences shape the way we navigate conflict
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How one word helps us bypass ego and hopelessness
Adding one word to a common question helps us mentally bypass our egos in conflict situations.
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3 problem-solving pitfalls that can derail conflict resolution
Good problem-solving process is like a reliable GPS, helping us navigate a difficult conversation coherently.
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June 2024

Reflection prompt #3
Reflecting on what spurs us to change unwelcome conflict-related habits
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A question for disagreements on charged issues
Some disagreements — particularly those on charged issues — lure us into thinking that if the other side(s) just had more information, they’d se…
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Venting anger: Why it doesn't help and what to do instead
Venting anger doesn't help you calm down and increases aggression. So why is the venting myth still embraced? And what's better?
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